What I learned at the Belgrade Dance Festival
Did I get your attention with the “boobs”? I hope so. We’ll get to them in a minute.
The festival took place about a month ago, so I’m a little late in sharing this, but the lessons learned still apply….
1. Freedom and growth are found outside your comfort zone
Because I love to dance, I really wanted to see at least one of the performances at the dance festival this year. A friend of mine was able to get me a press pass, for which I was very grateful, but I also found myself a little intimidated. By a press pass? I know, it seems so trivial, but it’s true.
As I was trying to decide which night I could attend, I noticed all these little insecurities and fear-based thoughts rise up. Things like maybe they’ll know that I didn’t actually obtain the press pass on my own and where will I sit since I don’t have an actual ticket and what if I end up without a seat and feel stupid just standing there, feeling like I don’t belong?
I know this all seems silly, but these are really the thoughts I was having. And we all have these fear-based thoughts with certain things in our lives especially when it comes to new situations…whether big or small. But it can all be summed up with fear of the unfamiliar.
When we face an unfamiliar situation, we don’t know what to expect, we can feel insecure and unsure how it will turn out. But if we push past all that and move forward anyways, we will experience great freedom and confidence. Freedom because we see the situation wasn’t as scary as we made it out to be, all of the potentially threatening scenarios were only made up stories in our minds. And confidence because next time a similar opportunity presents itself, we will be able to take it without any fear or doubt.
Freedom and growth are experienced whenever we do something new, or take a different and unfamiliar step. Take those opportunities outside your comfort zone.
2. Why are we so obsessed with boobs?
So I’m watching this performance by a Holland dance company and it was really lovely. Initially, there were only 3 dancers on the stage and after a while, about a dozen more appeared. They slowly entered the stage with their backs turned to us, wearing black pants and nothing on top. I thought they were all men, logically, right? Until they ended up facing us and I saw…wait a second, are those boobs?!?!
I found myself completely distracted by them. At first, because I was trying to figure out whether or not they really were boobs. I was kind of further back so I couldn’t tell for sure. Once I confidently confirmed that my observations were correct, then I was obsessed with how in the world she could comfortably dance with them bouncing around. Out of the 12 or so dancers, I concluded that 3 of them were females. But one of them looked like she was wearing a skin-colored leotard so she wasn’t exposed and one of them had very small boobs. It was the 3rd one I couldn’t take my eyes off of because she was well endowed and I was simply distracted.
No, I’m not into women. Don’t get the wrong idea. We’re just not used to seeing women shirtless. Men can dance shirtless, walk around the beach shirtless, and it’s not a big deal. Maybe that’s the point they were trying to make, that women are just like men. But are we really?
I’m all for equality, but we’re not the same, for obvious reasons. Men don’t produce milk and use their “breasts” to feed babies. Similarly, women’s breasts are erogenous and men’s simply are not.
Maybe if we saw more and more women walking around or dancing shirtless, it wouldn’t even faze us anymore, who knows? But as hard as people may try, men and women are NOT the same. And why would we want to be the same? Why not celebrate and appreciate the differences instead?
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